Why an arranged marriage 'is more likely to develop into lasting love' By Paul Bentley

They are seen by many as business deals that have little to do with love.

But arranged marriages are far more likely to lead to lasting affection than marriages of passion, experts claim.

According to research, those in arranged marriages – or who have had their partner chosen for them by a parent or matchmaker – tend to feel more in love as time grows, whereas those in regular marriages feel less in love over time.

And within ten years, the connection felt by those in arranged marriages is said to be around twice as strong.

Relationship experts claim this is because arranged matches are carefully considered, with thought going into whether potential partners’ families, interests and life goals are compatible.

This means they are more likely to commit for life – and to stick together through rocky patches.

Those who marry for love, on the other hand, tend to be blinded by passion and so overlook these crucial details.

When the going gets tough, they are more likely to view the situation simply as a natural end to their romantic dream – a way of fate telling them something is wrong with the relationship.

With soaring divorce rates and record numbers of single-parent households in the West, researchers suggest it is time to rethink the Western approach to love. Harvard academic Dr Robert Epstein has studied the subject of arranged marriages for eight years, looking at the approaches taken in cultural groups including Indian, Pakistani and Orthodox Jewish.

He has interviewed more than 100 couples in arranged marriages to assess their strength of feeling and studied his findings against more than 30 years of research into love in Western and arranged marriages.

His work suggests that feelings of love in love matches begin to fade by as much as a half in 18 months, whereas the love in the arranged marriages tends to grow gradually, surpassing the love in the unarranged marriages at about the five-year mark.

Ten years on, the affection felt by those in arranged marriages is typically twice as strong.

Dr Epstein believes this is because Westerners leave their love lives to chance, or fate, often confusing love with lust, whereas those in other cultures look for more than just passion.

He said: ‘The idea is we must not leave our love lives to chance. We plan our education, our careers and our finances but we’re still uncomfortable with the idea that we should plan our love lives. I do not advocate arranged marriages but I think a lot can be learned from them.

‘In arranged marriages, thought goes into the matching. In the West, physical attraction is important. But people must be able to distinguish lust from love. Strong physical attraction is very dangerous, it can be blinding.

‘In the West marriages are easy to get out of. But in arranged marriages, the commitment is very strong. They get married knowing they won’t leave, so when times are harder – if they face injury or trauma – they don’t run away. It brings them closer.’

Francine Kaye, relationship expert and author of The Divorce Doctor, added: ‘There is an awful lot to be said for arranged marriages. They are determined to make it work.

There is a downside to arranged marriages though – no matter how pragmatic you are in choosing a partner, there always needs to be chemistry.’

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POLICE UNIFORM UNDER TIE AND DYE INFLUENCE

It has come to the notice that the Police Uniforms are dyed at least every three month. This is because the quantity of junior officers is of inferior quantity hence the Uniform always has been in the grips of Tie and Dye makers.
The Manager of one of the Tie and Dye Companies in Ashaiman, Mama Dzifah disclose that due to the bad quality of the uniform the Police dye their uniform every month in other to make their uniform brighten.
She explains that the Police bring their Uniforms in large quantities for her to add ‘colour’ to it.
According to Mama Dzifah they charge the Police GHC10 of every uniform they work on.

However, the Public Relation Officer of the Police Service, DSP Cephas Arthur says each person has a way of preserving the clothes which differs from each one.
He explains that the service periodically supplied with new Uniform so it will of need for any officer to dye their uniform.
He discloses that the Uniform Committee will come out with a new style of Uniform for the service in the next four weeks.

AUSTIN GAMEY BLAMES GES, NAGRAT AND GNAT OF TEACHERS PROTEST

Labour Consultant Austin Gamey has blamed the leadership of National Association of Graduate Teachers (NAGRAT) and the Ghana National Association of Teachers (GNAT) for the rude behavior of teachers in protest of fairness in the Single Spine Salary Structure.
He explains that the agitation is due to the lack of communication from the leadership to the grassroots.
Austin Gamey says the Ghana Education Service, NAGRAT and GNAT were involved in the negotiations of their salaries but they failed to communicate the setbacks and details to their respective members.
He therefore urges teachers to call off their protest and hold their leaders accountable for lack of communication.

Meanwhile, the Member of Parliament for Assin North, Kennedy Agyapong rather blames politicians for the protest of the teachers.
He explains that politicians tend to play politics with the conditions of the teachers.
Mr. Agyapong also notes that the teachers deserve their plight as they are never satisfied with every government, but urged politicians to stop playing politics with teachers’ plight.